Do I smell desperate or something?
Within the last week or so two of my ex-boyfriends have made feeble attempts at rekindling our relationship.
First Steve, the infamous, stopped by my house and left a note on the door:
"I really don't care who I pissoff. I want to talk to you. Call me. TRUCE."
I didn't call; and what's this "TRUCE" shit about? I never knew we were at war. He called twice the same day he left the note, I didn't answer. Then he e-mailed me at work the next day (persistent little bugger) sort of blowing off the whole thing like he didn't know what he was thinking when he left the note. I asked him what he wanted to talk to me about. He said, "Nothing. Just wanted to talk to an old friend" HA! I told him I was surprised he still considered me a friend. Again, he made excuses for his behavior, "You know how manic I can be." Boy do I ever. He told me I could call him sometime if I wanted. I didn't have any desire to do so, so I figured it would be best to end it there. I told him I didn't think it was a good idea for us to try and be friends and that we should just leave things the way they are. He said he figured things would turn out like that and went about his merry way...Or not so merry way, whatever the case may be.
Last night, 'my favorite mistake' called. I haven't talked to him for months. The last few times we spoke were unpleasant and disappointing. I had pretty much resolved not to talk to him anymore. He left a message on the answering machine- I miss you, blah , blah, blah. Whatever. I pressed delete and went to bed.
I remember when my first boyfriend broke up with me (because I wouldn't have sex with him--I was 15 for godssake!) my Mom said something I'll never forget, "He'll come back, they always do, and by that time you won't want him anymore." Maybe Mom's words were magic, but I can tell you that every single guy who has ever cheated on, stopped calling, or otherwise dumped me, has always come back with his heart (or his dick) in his hand for a second chance, and like Mom said, I didn't want them (well, most of the time anyway).
So when people say things like "The grass in not always greener..." They're not just blowing smoke up your ass. You should treat life like a chess game and consider all angles before you make a move. You never know, you could close a door and try to open it later only to find that the locks have been changed.
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4 comments:
great post, we always go back! isnt that amazing? or is it simply pathetic? But the truth is, with every relationship collapsing, a piece of your heart vanishes, no matter if ever was a love involved. This is what I am struggling with, for the past 21 years, when I was first dumped.
HELL YES!
My son's dad was the biggest whore. 8 years after dumping his lying cheating ass he would still take me back. Like I would WANT that shit. Blech.
Steve sounds insane. Bi-polar? "I don't care who I piss off, I want to talk to you"? Will people be pissed off that he talked to you? And if so, and it was important to him at some time (but suddenly isn't) he can take him crazy self and march on down the merry road. Who needs that?
I've re-dated a few times. Doesn't work. The only thing it DOES do is make me feel ok about having sex with them, because at least I wasn't adding another one to my List. And that's pretty pitiful.
Sounds like you had a smart mom. Lucky duck you.
@ introspectre--ding,ding,ding!!! give that lady a prize!!! You are correct ma'am. Steve is bi-polar with a vengeance. March on, psycho steve, march on.
You might want to kick him in the ass once or twice for good measure. Just to be sure. (And for fun.)
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